February 10, 2013

Welcoming Baby Sam


Samuel Christopher Crittenden


January 31, 2013
3:47 am
9 lbs 7 oz
21.5 inches


This kid has massive hands.

Love that neck roll

He has a permanent little wrinkle from furrowing his brows.  So serious. 

So glad I caught this expression. Priceless!







Sam's Birth Story:

We have been excited to meet our little man for a very long time.  We've also been a bit anxious about his birth because Sam has a Congenital Pulmonary Airway Malformation (CPAM) that we've been monitoring for the last 6 month.  Basically part of his lower right lung did not develop properly and there is some cystic tissue that can (but thankfully not in our case) threaten the baby's heart in utero, and cause breathing problems at birth and will likely require surgery at some point.  In Sam's case, the cystic area is about medium sized and while doctors didn't anticipate breathing problems at birth, there was still a risk.  This is why we transferred my prenatal care from the midwives to the hospital with NICU facilities.

This anxiety about his lungs combined with information from his ultra sounds that he was measuring quite large with an extra large head, I was a bit nervous about his birth.   For his sake,  I wanted him to come when he was ready, and for my sake, I wanted him to come before he got any bigger.   So, despite having a mostly great pregnancy and feeling well, I became desperate to have the baby asap but without medical intervention that would interrupt the natural flow of labor and birth.  I sort of felt trapped and, as Chris and my mom can attest, I went a little bit nuts.

So, after an uneventful January 25th (Sam's due date), my body seemed ready to have the baby but there were no sings of labor.  Feeling skeptical that I would ever go into labor myself (I went a week and a half over with Esther and needed a little help to get things going) it was time to implement project get-Lizzy-into-labor.   Here is how it went.  Warning: this story is probably much longer with more details than anyone cares to know.  However, this blog's primary purpose is not for entertainment but to keep a record for my own family.   So there you have it.  Skim at your leisure.

Saturday, January 26th:
 Take castor oil, feel a bit queezy but not too bad. Walk for hours and have 6 hours of regular contractions that gradually taper off.  False alarm.

Monday, January 28th
Zumba class with my mom.  So fun!  Feeling great but no baby.

Tuesday, January 29th
 Learn from my doctor that I'm dilated to 4 cm. Almost half way there, hooray!  Doctor strips the membrane.  My mom and I go to lunch and the fabric store and wonder if labor will start.  Braxton Hicks contractions feel much stronger.  I take it as a good sign.

Wednesday, January 30th
Wide awake at 3am.  Take some more castor oil and make myself quite sick but get no results.  Go to the gym for 1.5 hours doing 40 minutes of cardio (stairs, walk uphill, speed walk), plus some squats and stretching.  I notice I'm getting some odd looks. Maybe it's the frantic gleam in my eye as I push myself to keep going, desperate to have this baby.

Still not in labor.  

Have lunch: soup sprinkled with cayenne pepper because spicy foods are supposed to help.  Go for a short hike with mom and Esther.  Do some shoveling in the field behind our house (apparently that always worked for my grandmother). Come home exhausted and depressed.  Have a short cry and a nap on the couch. I've given up hope that my body will ever go into labor on its own.

That evening my mom sends Chris and me out the door for a little date.  We go out for one of our favorite treats: frozen yogurt with fresh raspberries.  It's nice being out with just Chris and after 7 pm! Thanks mom.  Come home and watch a movie.

During the movie I notice the contractions are somewhat regular.  I don't say anything because this has happened before.  After the movie we stay up talking and I ask Chris to time the contractions: around 8 minutes apart.  It's late but I feel I should stay up and walk or do stairs to keep the contractions coming. Chris gives some excellent advice - go to bed.  If it's the real thing it will keep going.  I'm exhausted and acknowledge that he is right. 

Thursday, January 31

During my sleep, I find I'm waking up from contractions, but that's nothing new, so after they pass I roll over and fall back asleep.  Around 1:30 or 2:00 am I start to realize that the contractions are seeming quite close.  I determine to time how far apart they are but, thanks to all the physical exertion of the day, I can't manage to stay awake long enough for even two consecutive contractions.  

Things change quickly when, at 2:50 am, I wake up to an exceptionally strong contraction.  I'm not drowsy anymore.  On my way back to bed from a trip to the bathroom another one hits.  It's only 2:53.  Time to go!

I wake Chris and tell him we we need to go to the hospital.  He seems hesitant to rush off too soon but I insist.  Contractions are coming quickly.  We dress, say goodbye to my mom (who gives me a tight squeeze and I can't help but notice that pained but excited expression as she knows what's coming) and Esther (who is looking very confused at all the commotion) and get in the car.  It's 3:00am.

I don't care to remember the drive to the hospital other than it was raining, Chris drove as quickly as was safe while I clutched his leg tighter and tighter as the labor progressed. I try to stay calm with my ipod playing soothing music but intermittently I keep urging him to hurry and even told him to run a red light!  

We arrive at the hospital around 3:30.  I am not really on speaking terms at this point so Chris tracks down a nurse and says something about his wife is having a baby.  I sign some paper verifying who I am.  I tell them, trying to be calm but firm, that my contractions are 2 minutes apart and that I tend to go fast.  (At this point I have no idea that my words will be so true).

I'm wheeled into a birthing room, still listening to music (I highly recommend a playlist of your favorite songs from General Conference.  It did wonders for me.)  We get to the room and I need to visit the bathroom.  Between contractions Chris helps me to change into a hospital gown and get on the bed.  The nurse attaches the fetal monitor to my belly and asks to check me to see how my body has progressed.  At that moment my body transitions and starts bearing down.  I tell the nurse as much and she hurries off to find the doctor.  My body pushes a few times and I know it's close.  I can't believe this is all happening so fast.  Things are intense and the nurses are moving quickly. Chris is with me the whole time, rubbing my back to help relax my body and soothe my spirit.  Then, in 1 push I felt the baby's head descend into the birth canal and my water broke.  After a 2nd push his head crowned and stayed put, and in a 3rd and final push, our little Sam was born.  

It was euphoric.  He was here safely, without forceps or c-section, and he was breathing.  Chris and I couldn't stop looking at each other, wondering if this had really happened.  We were still in shock that Sam was already here.  After all, we had not been awake for even a full hour. After so much waiting, anticipating, and praying for this moment, it came and went and we barely had time to hang on.

I felt amazing, or I did until the soreness and the after-birth contractions set in.  Yes, it had been a very intense experience and not exactly comfortable, but because it was so short and I was well rested, it was manageable.  I had energy. I felt strong and powerful, and knew that God was with me and helping me deliver our son.  At Esther's birth, where I was too weak and exhausted to even lift her, I had to feel much of the joy and awe of birth through Chris until I had recovered.  This time we experienced it together.  We felt God's love, we felt love for each other, love for Sam, and we couldn't wait for Esther to arrive so our family would be together as we are meant to be.  




When Esther first met Sam she only spoke in whispers. It was darling.

 She was very curious about his little body and making sure all his parts were accounted for.

We're all looking like we just rolled out of bed...but happy. 

Sam's first few moments of life.

Love that first shower & change of clothes after the baby is born.  Pretty sure Sam is still pre-bath in these pictures, poor kid.



Could that face be any cuter? I think not. 
It was a nice hospital and we had great doctors and nurses...but I was very happy to leave. 


Meeting our Dyer cousins! 
We were amazed at how grown up little miss Cora seemed when compared to a newborn.


Couldn't have made it through the week without my wonderful mother.  It was such a relief knowing Esther was in good hands during our 2 1/2 days at the hospital.  She kept the house clean, fed us yummy food, took Esther birthday shopping, did sewing projects with me, and left us feeling   rested and ready to go.  So thankful for all her service and can't wait for her and my dad to move back to the U.S. this summer!






January 24, 2013

Nesting

For the past two weeks I've been busily preparing my life and home for the arrival of our new little man.  Those preparations have included things any normal person would want to do before they have a newborn: shopping for all those little essentials I'll need on hand, laundering and organizing the baby clothes, deep cleaning the house and car, and checking off all those to-do's that I've been putting off, well, since we moved here.  When I explain this to people who ask what I'm up to, they  give me this knowing smile and say, "oh, you're just nesting."

Nesting? I didn't think so.  Nesting is for "crazy pregnant ladies" who sporadically start redecorating the nursery, entire house, buying all sorts of useless junk, etc.  The nesting comment irked me for some reason because I knew my activities have been completely rational, normal, and necessary.

But in the moment I found myself using a Q-tip to clean those hard-to-reach crevices of my washing machine it hit me that somewhere I had crossed over that line between normality and something else.  Let's just say I don't normally swab my laundry room with Q-tips, nor do I normally keep a book about cleaning by my bed to read once I am too tired to clean.  Yes folks, I nest.




January 19, 2013

Yes, we did celebrate Christmas

So I am behind on posting this, but here is a quick update of some of our Christmas adventures. 

Esther dressed in her best international attire (courtesy of my parents currently living in Russia while my dad works for our church) for a Christmas-around-the-world dinner and carol singing with some friends from the ward.



For me, Christmas wouldn't be Christmas without home made gifts and lots of sewing.  My mother has been known to wake up at 2 or 3 am to sew for Christmas while we were still asleep.  Her creations were quite spectacular in the creativity of design and the sheer volume she produced.  I am starting quite small, but it's been fun beginning. Especially since I have also recently stated knitting and am a wee bit obsessed.  I have a lot to learn so don't judge too harshly.  Anyway, here is how it went:

Esther's silk Christmas dress with flower hair clip. (She was sick the day I took this picture...poor girl)

Knit cardigans for nephews Nathan and Daniel (sorry about the terrible quality of the pictures.  I could never be a professional blogger. Alas)

 Knitted Christmas stockings for the family.  Cream for mom and dad and red with cream cuff for Esther. Sewed Esther's fleece sweats...she looked like a round Christmas elf.


These are technically wedding gifts, but I gave them at Christmas time so they count. Right?  We have started a tradition of giving his and her's aprons as wedding gifts.  The yellow and gray set was for my friend Nina whom I met on our study abroad to Paris.  The blue and yellow set was for our dear friends from North Carolina, Charlotte and Asa.



We spent a warm and relaxing Christmas with the Crittenden's in Arizona.  I took embarrassingly few pictures, but we had a memorable time...in a good and not-so-good way. The best part was being together with family, watching Esther immediately reconnect with her grandparents and cousins Bristol and James, and loving our two new nephews Nathan and Brecker.  The entire family was there and we had a great time together.  We played LOTS of games, ate LOTS of great food, went the the Phoenix children's museum, had a grown-ups night out to see Les Miserables, and had a steady supply of sunshine and fresh citrus in the back yard.

On the other side of the spectrum, we almost missed our Christmas Eve flight due to our "ghetto-fabulous" long-term parking arrangements, and wondering if I would go into labor on the flight as I'm having lots of contractions as we ran through the airport (hauling bags with our Christmas gifts just in case the checked luggage didn't make it).  Fortunately both we and our bags (but not a new baby) arrived in Arizona ready for a great time.  We also brought with us a respiratory virus that lasted about 2 weeks, and then the stomach flu made it's way through the entire household except perhaps the newest baby and (thankfully) myself.  I credit my stomach's resistance to my highly sanitary childhood with horses, ducks, chickens, and I distinctly remember washing my hands in the mouth of our Saint Bernard dog, Chopper.  Lovely.




cousin Bristol and Esther...only 1 month apart

"shopping" at the children's museum
Photo: The bride and groom. I can't believe the bride and I have been friends for 15 years! #wedding #bridesmaid #bride
We went to the lovely wedding of my friend Nina and Landon in the Mesa Temple. It was such a beautiful ceremony and a happy reminder of was marriage is all about.  
We spent New Years with my brother Rick and his family, but sadly I forgot to take a picture.  It was so fun meeting little Daniel and seeing how much their kids have grown.  We can't wait for them to move to Idaho and be closer!We even got together with my dearest cousin Whitney who lives in Scottsdale.  We grew up around the corner from each other and it was SO happy to spend time with her again.  Love you!





December 6, 2012

Happy St. Nicholas Day!


Did you know that December 6th is St. Nicholas day? If you leave out your shoes the night before, and if you've been very good, St. Nicholas will come and leave a surprise in your shoes.  This year St. Nicholas brought Esther two Christmas books, for Chris he brought peppermint syrup so we can re-create the Starbucks peppermint hot coco.  For me, a real treat, St. Nicholas brought Trader Joe's Sea Salt Caramels. I LOVE Christmas!

We had a fun breakfast of German-Apple Pancakes with yogurt and berries, listened to Christmas music, and felt very much in the Christmas spirit. Esther is still not sure what's going on, but that's okay.  Better too young than to old for these sorts of things.
Here is our   Advent wreath  and the pretty and thankfully non-fragile nativity from Chris' parents last year.  Still no tree this year, but we are slowly building up our repertoire of Christmas decor and traditions.  A new one that we started this year was reading A Christmas Carol because we figure if President Monson can take time to read it every year, so can we.  Chris or I reads a chapter or two out loud every night and we just finished last night. I'm excited to start another book  tonight.  Not sure what we'll read next, but I'm thinking perhaps it will be The Other Wise Man. 


We can only put decorations in very high-out of reach  due to a certain almost two year old wild woman who lives here.  Bless her. 


Thanks to Sarah and Jake (Chris and Amber's cousins who live in Kirkland) for having us over last week for a gingerbread house party with real gingerbread.  Esther learned the word "candy" and how to eat most of her decorations long before they made it on the house.  We had a lovely time!


Merry Christmas to all!


December 4, 2012

Thanksgiving in Winthrop


We spent Thanksgiving with my sister Cynthia and her family who live in Winthrop.  Having a sister just 4 hours away is a major bonus to living in Washington.  Especially when that sister has a daughter just 2 weeks older than Esther, and she lives in a place with this view of the Cascades from her family room.  Can we say gorgeous?  I was literally inside the house when I took these pictures of the deer that came up for a morning snack. 



 Harriet and Esther played amazingly well together, mostly playing with the light switches, jumping, calling each other's names "Esser!" and "Harri-eh!" or just yelling, and playing with the toy animals.  Harriet is quite the little firecracker and it was delightful getting to know her fun personality.  She is going to be a great friend.


 A neighbor brought over a refrigerator box for the kids to play with. As you can kind of see, much creativity ensued that involved lots of paint and eating various meals inside the box, passed via a small hole in the roof.  All five kids somehow managed to fit inside along with various furniture and toys.  So fun.

The Feast:
Emil, Joshua, Marta, Thomasin



Cynthia & Thomasin
 Esther snuggling up to Marta one morning.  We spent a lot of time by that fire, because it was quite cold up there, and on our last morning we woke up to...
 SNOW!


 We drove up the pass to where the road was closed.  The oldest 3 kids (Thomasin, Marta, and Emil) put on their cross country skis and the rest of us trudged along the road next to a creek.  It was absolutely lovely...but Esther, being the Carolina girl that she is, wasn't such a fan of the cold.



And that is about what the road looked like when we were driving home!